Should Parents Allow Children to take their own Decisions

 The world in the past 20-25 years, has gone through  gazillion changes in every mode and  aspect of life which include parenting and socializing.Parenting has been the most respectable and noble job because it is done with complete honesty and will and no one can fire you from it on any circumstances.Teenagers are often found saying,

”Why don't you give us freedom ?”

 Nobody can actually answer that question because everybody thinks it is for your good.But I disagree because the definition of freedom for teenagers is fundamentally wrong .The allowance to party and make a mess of your life is not freedom.

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I firmly believe that children should be allowed to make their own decisions because our generation has been known all over the world to do ‘ What we want’ and we are persistent to keep up with all ways our parents try to stop us.Decision making is an integral life skill that each child should possess to be a successful person in life.Not allowing children to make their own decision can be reason for repressed anger , hatred and resentment in them.

Parents should only  be indirectly involved in decisions which does not include pressurizing etc.It means giving the right and complete information about sensitive topics to a child.A child is exposed to the world in school where he learns about bullying and cursing in an incomplete and vulgar manner.“Then too we are asked where did you learn all of this in school”.Every teenager has one spoilt friend on an average who introduces him to the world’s dark-side which include drugs,alcohol,violence and sex.Not getting appropiate information has caused these teenagers their precious lives.Every year over four thousand teenager have lost their life because of consumption of alcohol and over 1.2 millions teenagers die every years because of unprotected sex resulting in STDs.

The role of parents in the decision should providing information and their opinion.Some aspects of life require experience or skills which nobody else than our parents have, like current market and spirituality .Children whose decisions are taken by their parents have become so dependent on their parents that they need their parents to  spoon feed them with all answers.This does not mean that parents should let their kids do anything they want. Teens should have boundaries, and be guided by their parents. However, having a bit of ‘wiggle room’ will go a long way later when it matters.

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This topic can never come to a conclusion because if the decisions are not made without the involvement  of both the parents and child it can never be beneficial for either one.We expect our parents to understand our point of you towards something which is actually a lot to ask from a person similarly it is a lot to ask from a teenager not to do what he wants either follow his parents.Parents don't want their children to have  a risk in their  life hence not allowing us to be an artist for a profession or investing our money in a risky stock.

A Parent's role in every child's life is to give him/her information about sensitive topics and accept the truth about whatever the child is and has done in his life yet. A teenager experiences affection and intoxication but if the child is well aware about how to be responsible and what should be the response to it, the child will successfully tackle these problems and succeed in his life.So in my point of view the parents need to clear their whiteboard which is filled stereotypes and superstitions  and accept what decision the child has made………….

Children as the Michelle Obama has quoted,

“You can't make decisions based on fear and the possibility of what might happen.”